How Divorce Can Affect Children

Children and Divorce

Divorce can effect more than just the parents. It can effect children, whether they show it or not. Of course it is easier for them when the parents are mature about it. My husband and I handled the divorce as best as we could, even then our oldest son was struggling. Life is difficult enough as a seventeen year old. He distracts himself by playing with the new Star Wars gadgets.


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Child alone on a swing

Be Open With Them

I would never tell them that I found their father cheating from a cell phone spy app. However, my husband and I were still open to them about getting a divorce. We told the seventeen year old first of course, he handled it ok. Even though the other children are a lot younger, we still told them. The way we described it is different of course. We told them that Mom and Dad need more time to do there own things.

Comfort Them

This can effect children, and they may have mixed emotions when finding out. An older child will understand it more. Sometimes adults don’t get along and it can be healthier to have that space. A younger child may not understand that parents can separate. In that case a longer discussion could be required. Every parent has the right to tell or not tell their children. Although if you do, make sure to comfort them.

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Young child holding their parents finger

The Kids Are Alright

Believe it or not, most children are relatively unaffected by divorce. They can still lead happy lives even with the different dynamic. It can be healthier for them to have separate but happy parents. There are many articles that show how children move on from divorce. Like this article which confirms that you can raise happy children. Find comfort for yourself in reading positive and motivating articles like these.

Moving On

Divorce is difficult, but that doesn’t mean you can’t move on. In time your children will too. That is how life is we adapt to our current circumstances and do our best to thrive. I am more positive than ever about my future. I know I will find happiness again. My children have accepted and moved on from our divorce. If your interested in reading more about my journey, then check out how I caught my husband cheating.