How I Caught my Husband Cheating

I Caught My Husband Cheating

I introduced myself in my last post, my husband and I have divorced after 20 years of marriage. One of the main reasons is that I caught him cheating on Facebook secret messages. Facebook of all places, even after the Facebook scandal with Cambridge Analytica. Did you know that it now gives people the option to send secret messages? I found this out when my husband was sending these secret messages to his old girlfriend.


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My husband used Facebook messages to cheat

Users can set those messages to disappear after a certain amount of time. This makes cheating online even easier. Facebook wanted to give users the same options that people have using apps like Whats App or Snapchat. My husband was sending those messages in secret and he hoped I would never see them. However, I installed a cell phone spy app because I felt suspicious long before I found out. 

The Ex-Girlfriend

I knew that my husband added his old girlfriend online. She sent him a friend request and he actually told me about it. I didn’t think anything of it at first, people connect online these days. We’ve been married for nineteen years and I thought our relationship was pretty solid. Our kids are growing up and we have built a pretty decent life together.

After he accepted her friend request, he started to be on his phone and tablet more often. When I asked him what he was doing he said that he was just messaging a friend. I started getting suspicious when he was texting this “friend” late at night. A couple of times I even caught him getting up in the middle of the night to grab his phone and leave the room. 

I Became Suspicious

The suspicion started when I noticed how much time he was spending online messaging. My husband and I are friends on Facebook, but there was nothing suspicious on his public page. She commented on some of his posts, yet, there was no visible flirtation. They were really good at hiding it. I had that feeling in my gut that something was wrong, and I was right. 

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I found out about his affair

At first I didn’t want to check his phone but his odd behavior kept continuing. After months of this I got the spy app and thats how I found out. He has been exchanging inappropriate messages with his ex for months. On his cell phone and on Facebook. If you have that feeling in your gut that your spouse is doing something they shouldn’t, don’t ignore it. Be aware that they could be using Facebook or their cell phone to be sending secret messages. 

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